Yep, you heard me right. Criticism is awesome. It may go against our very nature and need for acceptance, but “attaboys” don’t really get us anywhere. If anything, they give us a false sense of security and a tendency to relax and let things happen as they will.
Great things don’t happen as they will.
Have you read this article by game designer Raph Koster? I instantly recognized several themes, not just from my game playtesting days at Cranium, but also as a writer, entrepreneur, and mom.
Though you really should read the whole thing, I know you’re busy, so here are the crib notes:
It’s the holiday equivalent to the car chorus, “Are we there yet?”
Is it [insert special occasion] yet?
Let’s face it. Kids have a different sense of time than us, and understandably so. Think about how long one month is as a percentage of their entire existence, compared to ours as adults. Now perhaps you can see why it seems to stretch before them like infinity?
We solved this issue with our three year old by revisiting one of my favorite traditions growing up: Continue reading
Three years ago today, we lost Sue. It hardly seems real when stated so bluntly. And yet there it is. The facts belying a long journey of emotional pitfalls, resilient hopes, and surprisingly strong motivation.
On the first anniversary, I wrote that it “wrung my soul out to dry.” That emotion has mellowed over time, though it remains poignantly poised at the heart of today. And I still “wander through those last hours like the abandoned sets of a movie.” I don’t know when or if there will ever be a year where that’s not the case.
But I do know that Sue wouldn’t want anyone to waste valuable time mourning. Alive. In this moment. Together. That’s the mantra she’d want us to have.
So rather than throwing a pity party, I do the following 10 things every year on this anniversary, in honor of her life, not death.
Bonus Idea: Finger Print Tree!
As a thank you for your support and readership over the past three years, I’ve rounded up a feast of holiday ideas—crafts, dinner party fun, and hostess gifts—in one handy post.
You have plenty to take care of. Let me help check something off of your list.
Then, take that extra time to really be present for those you’re thankful for. That’s the best gift I could possibly give you.
Happy together time,
For our honeymoon—well, technically our second one, but that’s another story—Ryan and I went to Thailand.
It was a completely foreign experience outside of either of our comfort zones, and yet it remains one of our most memorable travel experience to this day. I’d even say it was one of our favorites because of that.
Case in point…
At the end of the trip, we had a blitzkrieg day and one night in Bangkok (yes, like the song). Continue reading
I’ll never forget the first time I realized my toddler has actually drawn a… thing.
Since then, I’ve been tracking down fun ways to help her get creative and practice her hand-eye coordination.
It’s never too early to prep her for epic video game nights, right?
Here are a few of our favorites drawing games. What are yours? Continue reading
Every once in a while, you’ve just got to give a shout out to the people who are doing it right. The people who really get it, and just by being themselves, teach you something by osmosis.
These four bloggers have done that for me. Hats off to you all, and thank you.
And if you haven’t checked out their sites, may this inspire you to do so.
4 Life Lessons from My Favorite 4 Bloggers
1. The Everywhereist
Be honest, revel in what you love, and always be uniquely you. Years ago, Geraldine also gave me this sage advice, which stuck with me: let the blog [or insert other responsibility] be the means and not just an end to the means.